Beyond Appearances

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"Look up more than down. See more than say. Listen more than speak. Hope more than dread. Believe more than criticize. Yes more than no. No more than maybe. Laugh more than cry. Love more than hate. See. More. See."   -TKG


Hello Biker Gang!


I recently returned from my solo trip to Australia and it made me realize how difficult life can become when you have to turn autopilot off and actually make decisions on a daily basis. While that may sound silly to you, just imagine a life where you were unable to habitually plan your days based on classes, work projects, never-ending timetables, and competing deadlines... it's quite hard! Well, my overuse of vague responses and my inability to commit to a plan made me realize that sometimes it's just better to live in the moment and say yes. Let's do it together? Yes? Yes! For the next month, week, or even day, try to use yes more. A friend asks you to meet them for a last minute coffee? Say yes! A motivator you haven't had the opportunity to ride with invites you to join their class? Yes! Think of all of the fun people and opportunities awaiting you :)  If you're truly brave, write to me and tell me how your yes adventures went! And keeping in line with this yes attitude, please enjoy the post below from YYC Cycle Key Leader (and blogger), Rachel Antony.


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'Beyond Appearances'


Have you ever had a friend or colleague do something out of character and then you judge them for it?  Thinking, “who are they, they never do that.” We all do it, we put the people in our lives in certain boxes making it easier to know what to expect from them and feeling like you know who they are. It could be the human tendency to prefer the status quo, the familiarity and comfort in the norm, and usually the need to pass judgement on people at all times. 

I always find it surprising when I find out which boxes people have put me in; not necessarily how I would see myself. When I think about how I would describe myself it always starts with while sometimes I like this, sometimes I do that, when I feel like it I do this, one time I did that. But when you go to describe someone else, you’re like, she does this, says this, dresses like this, acts like this, and thinks this. Bam. Judge-y much? If I had a nickel for every time someone was surprised I listen to country music…
We are always striving towards growth and change, and to do that you need to get out of whatever boxes are holding you in. Just because other people don’t think you can do something, doesn’t mean you can’t reach those goals or make that change. In the same way, when you start to put people in the box you are used to seeing them in, take a second and open that door for them to grow in your mind. We are all working towards a better version of ourselves, and the best way to do that is with the support of our community.

I read in a relationship article one time that you shouldn’t use absolute words when arguing because it creates negative energy within your relationship. Words like never and always. I think it’s a good habit to get into when you are talking about yourself too. So before you say “I never do 6am spin,” give yourself the chance to set your alarm for 5am and crush those inner doubts. Like I said before, it’s better to use the “sometimes” than the “always.”

Wait, let’s do this. Sometimes I like country music, sometimes I do spin, when I feel like it I bake things, one time I decided to try out to be a motivator, other times I am taking too many Instagram brunch photos. There are a million ways to describe me, and I like to keep switching it up to keep people on their toes.

- Rachel Antony
(IG@almostffamous)
(www.franklyray.com)

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